Fall​ ​Family​ ​Fun

Fall​ ​Family​ ​Fun:​ ​Activities​ ​that​ ​Emily’s​ ​family​ ​does​ ​each​ ​year:
Fall is my favorite time of the year and for most of us also the busiest! From getting
back to school, to fall activities and Packers Games, there is never a dull moment. I’m
the type of person who works hard to play hard, so I’m always out and about. Here are
my family’s top 6 fall activities!

Blasers Acres
This is my “quick, we have a morning free or an afternoon, any day of the week and I
wanna enjoy this crisp fall air” go to place!
Petting Zoo, pumpkin bowling, hay slide, corn box (sand is overrated by this time of year) and corn maze. I can grab my pumpkins, apples, seasonal veggies, decorating gourds and corn stalks. They also have a hay ride that runs at select times.
When:​ ​Now​ ​through​ ​ ​Halloween
Where:​ ​ ​2556​ ​School​ ​Ln​ ​Suamico,​ ​Wisconsin,​ ​WI​ ​54313
Cost:​ ​Free​ ​Admission,​ ​corn​ ​maze​ ​is​ ​$4.00

 

Delzer’s Pumpkin Farm
When my husband and I met in Madison we went to all the pumpkin patches, corn mazes and Halloween activities we could. When we moved back to Green Bay I wanted to make sure we still had a pumpkin patch to visit and I found Delzers. I can’t say how much I love this place! You pay a fee when you arrive and receive a punch card, each activity takes 1-2 punches. From haunted hayride, to tracker train pull, haunted granary
and the corn maze. If you have leftover punches that equals $1.00 to put towards the pumpkin patch! This will be our 5th year and it’s one we look forward to!
When:​ ​September​ ​30th​ ​-​ ​Halloween​ ​11am​ ​to​ ​4pm​ ​on​ ​Saturdays​ ​and​ ​Sundays
Where:​ ​9581​ ​Delzer​ ​Cir,​ ​Oconto​ ​Falls,​ ​WI​ ​54154
Cost:​ ​$7​ ​/​ ​Ticket​ ​(2​ ​years​ ​and​ ​under​ ​is​ ​FREE)​ ​-​ ​Includes​ ​4​ ​Punches​ ​(Hayrides​ ​are​ ​2 punches​ ​/​ ​All​ ​other​ ​activities​ ​are​ ​1​ ​punch)

 

15th​ ​annual​ ​Spooktacular
Another great indoor activity for all ages, from live performances to a pumpkin carving
competition, decorate your own pumpkin and other crafting stations, balloon animals and face painting.  Come for an hour or stay for the day. The photo ops were impressive!
When:​ ​Saturday,​ ​Oct.​ ​7th​ ​2017​ ​ ​9​ ​a.m.​ ​to​ ​3​ ​P.M.
Where:​ ​ ​Lambeau​ ​Field​ ​Atrium
Cost:​ ​Free
Note: Those who attend the event are also encouraged to bring new or gently-used winter coats to Lambeau to donate to the Coats for Kids program.

 

Bellevue’s Trick or Treat Trail
Walking in the woods of Josten park on a beautiful fall day just can’t get any better, or can it? There are local businesses and resources set up through the trail for your littles to get some treats! Photo ops, pick your own pumpkin and so much more. Registration is required so don’t wait on this event, it’s one of my favorites. Learn more and sign-up for the event here
When:Saturday,​ ​October​ ​21st​ ​(registration​ ​ends​ ​Friday,​ ​October​ ​20th​ ​4:30​ ​P.M.)
Time: 10:00am​ ​-​ ​12:00​ ​P.M.
Where:​ ​Josten​ ​Park​ ​(sign-in​ ​at​ ​shelter​ ​upon​ ​arrival)
Cost:​ ​Free

 

Sweet Street at Shopko Hall

Sweet Street is an indoor halloween focused event where weather dependent activities
aren’t even a problem. It’s the largest and most popular Halloween events in Northeast Wisconsin. You are able to see local resources and participate in kids activities like: bounce houses, box maze, fire trucks, petting zoo and live performances, all while your child trick or treats to each booth.
When:​ ​ ​OCTOBER​ ​27,​ ​2017​ ​11:00-8:00​ ​P.M.​ ​and​ ​ ​OCTOBER​ ​28,​ ​2017​ ​8:30​ ​-​ ​4:00 P.M.
Where:​ ​Shopko​ ​Hall
Cost​ ​ ​$5.00​ ​advance​ ​or​ ​$6.00​ ​at​ ​the​ ​door.

 

It’s a Magical Halloween at Heritage Hill
Every year is a different theme with two things I love, history and candy! Explore the buildings, go to story time in the church, enjoy a bonfire, apple bobbing and lots of spooky fun. Plan accordingly, there are shuttles and street parking. It’s a lot of walking so come prepared, but oh so worth it! This year witches and wizards are taking over the park!
When:​ ​Saturdays​ ​October​ ​21​ ​&​ ​28​ ​ ​@​ ​3-8​ ​P.M.
Where:​ ​Herritage​ ​Hill​ ​State​ ​Park
Cost:​ ​ ​$7 admission, Children 3 and under are FREE. Members free for Traveler level and above

 

 

 

We hope to see you out and about this fall season celebrating family and creating memories. Happy fall everyone!

 

Emily Jacobson is a certified doula and owner of Green Bay Doulas. Her certifications include; Labor Doula, Postpartum & Infant Care Doula, Certified Newborn Care Specialist, Certified Postpartum Placenta Specialist, and Certified Childbirth Educator. 

Essential Oils and Pregnancy

Essential oils are becoming more popular as home based businesses like DoTerra and Young Living, and ItWorks! bring oils into the home, but the misinformation and safety of these products can have positive and negative experiences for the user. It is not within the scope of a doula to use bring or use our own personal oils unless we ourselves are certified aromatherapists. Sara Schoenecker, Certified Aromatherapist, and owner of Pneuma shares her knowledge and expertise on the top things you should know about using essential oils in pregnancy.

 

What is aromatherapy?

Aromatherapy is the holistic therapeutic application of genuine plant-derived essential oils for enhancing, harmonizing and balancing the mind, body, and spirit.

 

What is an essential oil?

Essential Oils are distilled from aromatic plant material and are the vehicle for effective aromatherapy application.

 

What makes aromatherapy effective?

Our bodies can process essential oils in a variety of ways. Some of the most common uses of essential oils include; direct inhalation (such as utilizing a personal aromatherapy inhaler), diffusing essential oils into a room, or topical application.

 

Direct inhalation is one of the fastest routes of absorption when it comes to aromatherapy application and on average our bodies can absorb about 50% of the essential oils constituents. When diffusing essential oils into a room, our bodies will only absorb what we take in while in the room, so this method is not quite as effective as utilizing direct inhalation. When it comes to topical application our bodies will absorb roughly 5% of the essential oils constituents.

 

Direct Inhalation is one of the fastest routes of absorption due to our olfactory system acting like fly paper where the essential oils chemical molecules get “stuck” and make their way to the brain and to the lungs and then circulate throughout our system. As a human being, we are able to identify 2000-4000 different molecules via our olfactory membrane. A single essential oil can be comprised of 10-200+ different molecules and is what contributes to their unique aroma.

 

One of the things that make aromatherapy so uniquely individual is how we perceive the aroma of a certain essential oil and also the emotions that are tied to a certain scent. Imagine walking into a bakery and smelling freshly baked bread. Instantly you are transported to your childhood in your grandma’s kitchen as she is pulling a fresh loaf out of the oven. All of a sudden you have a huge smile on your face! The power of smell and our psychological well-being truly go hand in hand!

 

Utilizing Aromatherapy during Pregnancy…is it safe?

As a Certified Aromatherapist, this is a question that comes up a lot. Can you utilize aromatherapy while pregnant? The short answer is yes and no.

 

The first trimester is the most crucial in terms of fetal development and as a Certified Aromatherapist, I tend to err on the side of caution when it comes to utilizing essential oils during this time. You see, essential oils are extremely concentrated plant substances and a lot of plant material goes into making a small amount of essential oil.

To put this into perspective:

It takes roughly .42 lbs of fresh lavender flowers to produce only 1 ml or 20-30 drops of Lavender essential oil. Typically, I recommend utilizing herbally infused oils or hydrosols during the first trimester instead of an essential oil. A hydrosol (sometimes called a hydrolat or floral water) is the byproduct of essential oil distillation. Some of the most common hydrosols that people are familiar with are witch hazel and rosewater. The hydrosol often times carries similar therapeutic properties as the essential oil and is a lot more gentle.

For instance, if you are in the first trimester and are having a hard time sleeping, instead of reaching for Lavender (Lavandula angustifolia) essential oil, you could use Lavender hydrosol instead.

Now, if you have a wicked case of morning sickness, could you inhale a pregnancy safe essential oil like Ginger (Zingiber officinale) to help? Yes, but only as needed. It wouldn’t be something that I would recommend using every day.

In the first trimester, other ways to combat morning sickness would be to eat something small right when you awake. I know for me personally, apples were my go to. Eating a couple slices of an apple right when I woke up helped me immensely with morning sickness. If my stomach felt off during the day I also loved a cup of ginger tea with lemon.

During the second and third trimesters of pregnancy, essential oils should still only be used as needed and be properly diluted at 1% or less (5-6 drops of essential oil per ounce of carrier) for safe application. Proper dilution is key, especially while pregnant. Properly diluting an essential oil for topical application will minimize the risk of an adverse reaction or skin sensitization. As always you want to be sure you are using essential oils that are considered safe for pregnancy.

 

Can I Ingest Essential Oils While Pregnant?

As a Certified Aromatherapist, I do not recommend ingesting essential oils during pregnancy, this would include the vaginal or rectal use of essential oils as well. I would recommend a cup of tea for trying to combat a certain issue while pregnant. Teas do contain small amounts of essential oils and would be a much safer option. Remember, a lot of plant material goes into producing a small bottle of essential oil. Sometimes 1 drop of essential oil could be compared to the equivalent of 40-50 bags of tea. Think about this for a moment, if you had an upset stomach, you wouldn’t brew 40-50 bags of ginger tea in one small 8oz cup, would you? That would definitely be a bit of overkill since one bag of tea would be sufficient. “Neat” use (applying essential oils directly to the skin), is also not recommended during pregnancy.

What are some essential oils that should be avoided during pregnancy?

When the need arises to utilize essential oils during pregnancy, one of the key factors to take into consideration is that you choose an essential oil that is extremely gentle and nourishing. You would want to steer clear of any essential oils that are potentially fetotoxic. Here are some essential oils not recommended during pregnancy…

Please note this is not an exhaustive list, be sure to research each essential oil prior to utilizing it during pregnancy. If you are unsure about an essential oil choice, you can always email me at Sara@Pneuma.online. Also, a great book to add to your essential oil collection would be Tisserand and Young’s Essential Oil Safety 2nd Edition. If you are looking to learn more about hydrosols I would recommend Suzanne Catty’s book Hydrosols The Next Aromatherapy.

 

Not all oils are created equal and although natural, you want to make sure you are making the best choice for your family. The Green Bay Doulas are there to help you navigate your options and know the available resources for you and your family.

 

Sara is a level 2 AIA & NAHA Certified Aromatherapist, a Certified Aromatherapy Teacher Level 1 and owner of Pneuma, LLC. She resides in Green Bay with her husband Rick, and daughter Viola. Sara began her journey to natural living 8 years ago when she realized that the “food” she was eating, wasn’t really food at all. After cleaning up her diet and cleaning out her cupboards, Sara began to look at other ways to cut chemicals from her life and began making her own cleaning products; lotions, body butters, toothpaste, laundry detergent and more. Aromatherapy always piqued Sara’s interest and with so much misinformation out there, she knew she had to gain her Certification so she could help others utilize essential oils safely in their day to day lives. Sara believes in the bodies innate ability to heal itself, when given the proper tools, and has a passion for helping others live a more naturally minded lifestyle. Sara is also an abstract artist and cosmetologist. In her free time, Sara enjoys swimming with her daughter and husband, writing, reading, going for bike rides and soaking up as much sun as possible.

Adoption: Answering Common Questions

November is National Adoption Month, which is a topic near and dear to my heart, as I was adopted at just 9 weeks old from the Milwaukee area. Growing up I actually had a lot of friends who were also adopted.  Believe it or not, we were often asked the same common questions and I thought I would share those in hopes of bringing awareness throughout the month to many of our readers.

What are the different types of adoption?

There are actually three different forms of adoptions!

Open Adoption:This is where your family may have access to the biological families information or even remain in contact with them.

Closed Adoption: In this case, records are sealed about personal information on the biological family. Once you reach adulthood you can do a records request to see if the biological family would be interested in meeting. Sometimes this information is available and sometimes it’s not. In my case my request was denied, but I was able to get a ton of paperwork about my biological family and medical history. That was informative, but what was most significant and even more special were the papers my parents filled out as they waited for my adoption to be finalized, what they did with me, my milestones, things I never knew existed on paper.

Domestic vs International- Simply means were you born in the USA or adopted from overseas?

Was it difficult to family trees or family related school projects and activities?

Sometimes yes, and others no. My family was my family. I tailored all of my presentations to my family. My grandpa was of syrian descent and my grandmother german. I knew I was german and hungarian, but that’s about it.  When you don’t have the information it’s hard to go off of, but I did my best with the info at hand.

And of course, my friends always wanted to know…

Do we really have two birthdays?

Sorta! We celebrate our birthdays and also my “gotcha day” growing up. I called this my special birthday, but others call it a Gotcha Day. Gotcha Day is the day we came home with our parents.

How do you explain adoption to children?

My mother always said it best. “You grew in my heart not my belly.” My outlook on being adopted is different then others may feel. I’m a firm believer that I was meant to be with my family and just needed a way to get there. So, yes, I grew in my mothers heart.

What local support is out there for children who are adopted?

The Post Adoption Resource Center of Brown County is a great place to start! 

Also having playdates with other children and classmates who were adopted as well was probably the most beneficial part to me as a child.

So on this national adoption month do you know someone who’s adopting, was adopting or has adopted? Reach out, let them know you are glad they are in your lives!

So the all important question,

How do we, as doulas, support adoption?

Before Baby: We are available before baby is welcomed as Antepartum Support Doulas. We can help create an amazing space in the home of the family adopting the newest addition by setting up furniture, the nursery and helping you talk through feelings and emotions. We can also provide support to the biological mother or surrogate by talking through or going with her to doctor appointments and supporting her emotionally.

Throughout Labor: We support the biological mother or surrogate on her journey to birth in whatever capacity she may need, whether that’s physically or emotionally.

Once Baby Is Born And The Postpartum Period : We help with the transition when parents bring home baby with the use of postpartum care. Working with them to set up a routine or settle into their new parenting roles. We can also aide in the support of the biological mother or surrogate once home helping them with self care for healing both physically and emotionally. We can assist with general recovery, lactation support to either stop or pump, an ear to listen, and our extensive list of referrals. We have even encapsulated for a surrogate who was planning on pumping for the baby.

If you would like to hear more about the support doulas can provide during the adoption process I would be more than happy to answer questions! Feel free to contact us at info@greenbaydoulas.com

Understanding Postpartum Doulas VS Night Nurse

If you are a Shameless fan like we are, you saw in the season 7 premiere that Debbie hired a night nurse so she can get some sleep. Typically a night nurse or night nanny is someone who takes care of the baby in the evening so the parents can get some sleep. But, what if I told you there was such a profession where a trained professional came into your house who

1- Was an expert in newborn care,

2- Knew how to support a mother in recovery from childbirth,

AND

3- Took care of the family as a WHOLE!

 

Enter the Postpartum Doula!

 

A normal daytime shift (averaging 4-8 hours) can look like a number of things, but is not limited to:

An unbiased ear to listen to concerns

Meal prep

Sibling support

Nap for mother

Self care for mother

Breast/bottle feeding, formula feeding, basic lactation support

Light housework

Extra hands for errands or doctors appointments

Cesarean support

Newborn and baby care

Just to name a few!

 

And the support of overnights (10 hour shift) while parents rest:

Breastfeeding support

Bottle feeding support

Meal prep

Light housework

Baby care

And sleep for both parents!

 

What you can expect with a Postpartum Doula? Personalized care! Families often seek support for high needs babies such as colic or silent reflux, special needs, support during teething, transitioning back to work, sleep regressions and sickness, and adjusting to adoption and multiples! The goal of a Postpartum Doula is to support the parenting approach that fits your lifestyle best. Every family’s needs are different which is why we have a postpartum planning session with each family to learn about the family dynamics, feeding style, parenting style and how best to support your family during the first year of a new addition.The beauty of a Postpartum Doula is that they help the family as a whole offering their expertise by lending a hand and helping a family transition into their new roles as parents, siblings and even furbabies!

While postpartum care is typically seen as a luxury item for many families, it’s simply about having a plan and making a budget. You may consider sitting down and discussing a postpartum plan even before your beautiful bundle arrives so that you can be as prepared as possible entering into this new chapter! Everyone plans for the arrival, but what about the weeks and months after your little one is here, Postpartum Doulas are happy to help!

Why make the investment? One of our clients explains it best so we’ll share his quote with you, “My wife is home all day with the baby and when she’s well rested she’s a better mother and wife and that’s what is important to me!” Utilizing a postpartum doula can be different for each family.  Whether it’s full time, part time or as needed; we want you to thrive during this time, not just survive.

If you are interested in more information about Postpartum Support please contact us today at information@greenbaydoulas.com or (920)246-0200

Do Nurses Like Doulas?

 

A Letter From A Labor & Delivery Nurse

“My name is Holli and I have been a labor and delivery RN at Bellin for the past 12 years.  I have always thought we gave excellent nursing care, then one day, I realized how much better it could be.  I had worked with doulas in the past and honestly wasn’t all that impressed.  Then I met Emily, who I learned is not only a doula, but owner of the local doula agency, Green Bay Doulas.  When I walked into my patient’s room for the day, there was an extra smiling face in the room.  She introduced herself and we started our day together, caring for “our” patient.  Emily supported the patient beautifully throughout the labor process, and also respected my role as the RN.  

When I worked with doulas in the past, they always tried to “buck the system” and argue everything we have to do according to our policies.  Emily and I seamlessly care for “our” patients to meet all of their needs.  We work together to decide the next best “game plan”. Are we hopping in the shower?  Going for a walk?  Maybe starting a little Pitocin (it IS NOT the devil) lol, or maybe we are going to run some essential oils through the diffuser that the client brought and take a little rest.  Whatever we are doing, we work together.  I had never before had a doula pull me aside to talk outside the room about what I think we should do next. It is about respect and Green Bay Doulas prides themselves on doing what is best for the family, while also working WITH the healthcare team.  I am so proud to see what Emily has done for doulas in our community, and for herself with her local doula agency Green Bay Doulas.  She is truly a sweet soul and an amazing doula.  She has built an amazing team of doulas, all of which are easy to work with and top notch!”

-Holli Lange RN

 

There is often stigma attached to the word doula and sadly many think our role is to replace the L & D nurse or to stand up against medical choices for the client. In fact our role is to partner with the nurses to create a cohesive support team for you and your pattern while in labor. At Green Bay Doulas we respect the nurse’s role and understand that our role as a professional doula is very different. We are so lucky to have amazing nursing staff in our area and even more grateful for the relationships we’ve built.
To learn more about the support Green Bay Doulas provides visit our website at www.greenbaydoulas.com or email information@greenbaydoulas.com

Green Bay’s Fitness Secret

 

Health clubs, fitness centers, machines, dance classes, yoga, where do you start?

How do you stay fit?

What if the workout you’re doing in your first trimester isn’t as doable during your third trimester?
There’s no need to feel defeated if you aren’t able to be as active as you were pre-pregnancy, or even a month ago because we have a secret and we are so excited to share it with you!

 

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Brooke McMillan is the owner of Pure Barre – Green Bay, which is one of over 350 locations in the USA & Canada, the website states thatEach Pure Barre class is 55 minutes and begins with a warm-up in the center of the room, on the floor, and then standing with light weights to work those arm muscles. We’ll then move to the barre to work your thighs and your seat. After the seat work, you’ll do a series of ab exercises, followed by a cool down. While the flow of class is always the same, we are always changing the music and exercises, so you never experience the same class twice!

 

“I took a class a few weeks ago at 18 weeks along, and I was impressed with how fast the class went, how low impact it is but man could I feel it the next day. Yes did I feel like a fish out of water sometimes? Sure, but that’s where it makes you want to come again, learn the technique and keep going. I had to modify a few things but I was able to complete the class, and if I can do it, you can do it. Great music, great atmosphere and it’s ok to look at the gal next to you with this look of ‘How did I get myself into this?’ because we are all in it together, you feel the burn, you push yourself and you keep at it.” – Emily J.

 

They have packages for new clients, teachers, monthly and yearly packages and even a class on just learning the technique. Here are some great blogs from the Pure Barre blog so check them out.


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Now that we got this HUGE secret off our chests, we are excited to invite you to experience it first-hand!

On May 2nd, at 7:00pm we are having a Pure Barre class with the Green Bay Doulas. This is the perfect opportunity for you to come and experience the class, meet your doulas, and ask any questions you have!

This class is open to all mothers, expecting mothers, new mothers, and those who just want to come and join us.
***Space is extremely limited so please email greenbay@purebarre.com to sign up.

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Check out Emily and Brooke talk about Pure Barre: YouTube Link HERE 

We are excited to let you in on the secret and hope to see you May 2nd. As always we are here to help you find the secrets of Green Bay that support you during your pregnancy and after so please reach out and we hope to hear from you soon!

-The Green Bay Doulas

 

Photo Credit: http://hauteofftherack.com/10-reasons-to-try-pure-barre/

Three Cheers for Pit!


I can hear you now, “Did she just say that?” Yes, Yes I did. I want to open up the conversation, bring it out from the darkness that we at Green Bay Doulas are experts in options and yes, pitocin is one of them. Open your mind and keep reading…..

 

Your next question is probably: “How can a doula be in favor of pitocin!?” Easy! It’s not my job as a doula to make sure you have a 100% all natural medication free birth, if that’s your goal that is up to you and I’ll stand by your side and support you! We don’t advocate at Green Bay Doulas, you are strong and can speak for yourself. We provide you with info so that you can make the decision that is best for you. We are not medical professionals. We will support you through your journey, but we will not tell you how to birth. This is your journey not ours.

 

Ok, I still feel you rolling your eyes at me, “But Emily women have been giving birth for thousands of years without medications “ this is true! But, remember 1 in 3 died in childbirth. We have all, but lost the ability to squat, we don’t eat the same foods as they did either, we drive everywhere, and sit for extended periods of time at work. This world is different, which makes women and they way we give birth different and (brace yourself) some women need the assistance to deliver their babies. They shouldn’t be shamed for their choice! It’s not your choice to make, not your baby, and you aren’t a doctor so stop with the natural is the only way to go because for some moms it’s not.

 

The management of Pitocin or synthetic oxytocin has progressively gotten better in the last five years, at least in my personal experience, from when I started as a doula. There are still many factors that come into play so let’s talk about some:

 

Pitocin=Epidural – NOT ALWAYS! Sometimes all you need is a very small amount. There are times it does mean more intensity, but it depends on the women and how she perceives labor pain.

 

Pit isn’t created equal – Let’s talk about provider protocols- some doctors are more laid back and some are more aggressive in their personal pitocin protocol so this is a great subject to bring up during your doctor’s appointment!

  • When do they use pitocin?
  • How much do they start at?
  • How often will they increase the dosage?
  • What is the perfect pattern of contractions look like when using pitocin?
  • How does pitocin work?
  • Do the other doctors in the rotation use the same protocol?

 

When a women has been in labor for an extended period of time they can become tired, well not only them, but it’s also true for their hard working uterus! A tired uterus can lead to failure to progress, stall out the labor, but using pitocin can help assist the uterus which can prevent a cesarean can you believe it?

Pitocin can sometimes prevent a cesarean!

 

Beyond that if a uterus is tired the risk of hemorrhage after the baby is born is a real concern to medical providers.  This is a common reason why women receive pitocin after birth, via IV or a shot in the leg. Again, this is about choices, talk to your medical provider about their protocol for third stage management of the delivery of placenta.

 

I understand this isn’t an easy topic to talk about. We have all heard the horror stories, but unless we open the conversation about medical management of medicines we will always be stuck at the intersection of horror stories and evil pit.

 

I’m proud that Green Bay Doulas are extensively trained through ProDoula to be able to support any type of birth. We don’t have a birth philosophy, because it’s not our birth. We don’t assume a women should give birth a certain way. We provide judgement free, nonbias support, and we aren’t afraid to talk about the real concerns of women as they prepare to birth their babies.

 

If you’d like to hear more about the support we provide at Green Bay Doulas please contact us at (920) 246- 0200 or email us at information@greenbaydoulas.com
By: Emily Jacobson

Not Your Bouncer

 

Part of the uphill climb of being a professional doula is that we are always playing catch up with myths and misunderstandings which perpetuate the negative side of being a doula.

We have all met the bad hairdresser, the real estate agent who did a less than stellar job or even chiropractors who were money hungry, not patient focused. Sadly this is true for Doulas.

We are not your personal bouncer

We don’t advocate for you, because you are capable of using your own voice. We love working with OBGYN’s, Midwives, and nurses; building relationships and supporting their patient base. We don’t save women and babies from childbirth, but rather support women during their childbirth and the postpartum period. A doula’s goal is to have a happy mom, healthy bond. A medical professional’s goal is healthy mom, healthy baby. So as you can see together a doula and a medical provider create a great support team as all levels of support are met! I’m not at the door keeping people out, sneaking in food, lying to medical staff or forcing you to have the birth I think you NEED vs what you want. My job is not to bombard you with personal agendas and propaganda.

We are not just for hippies

I’ve personally met doulas who only want to support those having natural births, only home births, only “crunchy” moms. Again, uphill climb because the ONLY one I’m supporting is YOU, whoever that is. Teacher, nurse, business owner, lawyer, young professional; even a homebirth hippie drinking kombucha. It’s not about the birth you desire- It’s the journey you take with each pregnancy, each labor and each growing of these babies into children and having the support of Green Bay Doulas by your side.

We are not amateur birth junkies

Yes, we have experienced birth with our children, but that does not qualify us to be certified doulas. Same as becoming a doula does not make us childbirth educators. Weird thought right? As in being a hairdresser doesn’t make you a makeup artist. Sure you may know a few overlapping things, but when it comes down to it they are separate. They require separate trainings and separate knowledge based skills. How do you know if you are talking to a doula who just claims the word or someone who actually has gone through a separate process of certification? Ask! Who are they trained with? What did that entail? We don’t go to births to get a “high”. We go to births to support our clients. Yes, seeing a baby being born is an amazing experience and a great “perk”, but the real joy is seeing a couple become parents or a family expanding their hearts just a little more.

I love being a doula, the hard part is always working uphill to elevate the profession when there are people out there right now, scaring a mother, pushing agendas, and not understanding the full scope of a doula because they were not trained. I’m not your bouncer, I’m your doula.

If you would like to hear more about the layers of support Green Bay Doulas can offer email us at information@greenbaydoulas.com

By: Emily Jacobson

 

An Open Letter To My Family and Friends About Miscarriage

 

October is infant loss awareness month, According to http/www.firstcandle.org/october-is-awareness-month/

“Each and every day, in communities across America, expectant moms will feel their baby’s first kick; parents will listen to their newborn’s first cry; and families will celebrate the birthday of a healthy baby. Also each and every day, 13 babies will be lost to SIDS and other sudden, unexpected infant deaths; more than 70 new parents will have listened sadly their stillborn baby’s silence; and countless lives will be lost to miscarriage and other causes of infant death.

A few of the Green Bay Doulas have experienced loss and Sam, one of our postpartum placenta specialists was gracious enough to share with us, and you, the following words.

An open letter to my family and friends about miscarriage.

My husband and I had a discussion yesterday that hit home with me: if I want people to know I am grieving, I actually have to tell them. So here it is…

There will be no funeral for the child that has already gone to heaven, so tiny that I never got to hold them with my hands but only with my heart. I will never forget the baby I wished for, and the day baby left.

I don’t want people to feel sorry for me, to think “wow, her life sucks”, or throw me a pity party. I can do that all by myself. I just want people to know I am sad, mourning for my baby and all the hopes and dreams that went with my angel in heaven.

Please don’t say “well you’re young you can always try again” or “things always happen for a reason”. I wanted this baby, not any other, and there is no good reason why babies die.

If fact, you don’t have to say anything. A quiet prayer or a lit candle works quite sufficiently.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I want to make a difference in the world by supporting women as a bereavement doula, and never once thought that I would have the experience in loss myself. I hope that when I reach that point, when things get a little easier, I can support other women and let them know it is ok to talk about loss and we shouldn’t have to hide the hurt.

Love you all,

Sam

 

I’m Pregnant, You’re An Asshole

 

Being pregnant is hard enough, read on for some friendly etiquette and tips to take note of while chatting with a pregnant friend. You’ll both thank us later!!

 

What not to say: WOW! You are so big!

Why? That comment stops being cute around 2nd grade. A pregnant mom is already quite aware she is growing a tiny human no need to point out her healthy bump!

Instead: You’ve never looked so happy and healthy! I’m so excited for you.

 

What not to say: Are you sure there’s not twins in there?

Why? Yes, I’m very sure, and if it was you would be saying, “ Are you sure it’s not triplets?” Your opinions are better left at home.

Instead: Gosh, that adorable bump looks great on you!

 

What not to say: You’re belly is so little! Is baby healthy?

Why? Pregnant moms have enough to worry about with what color to paint the nursery, scheduling their next appointment and so on. Filling her thoughts with “what if’s” isn’t helpful. All pregnancies are different and all moms-to-be carry their bundles differently.

Instead: Pregnancy sure looks great on you!

 

Fast forward to you 41 weeks pregnant, What not to say: Are you ready? Done waiting?

Why?( Look past the evil glare) this is common sense, yes she is ready! She has been ready, she cannot wait and, in labor, that comment might even get something thrown at you.

Instead: I bet your little one is just excited to meet you as you are to meet her! Keep up the great work mommy!

 

What not to say: Why haven’t you been induced yet?

Why? It’s not your birth, and you are not a medical provider so leave that choice up to the couple and their doctor.

Instead: You’re doing such a good job waiting on that little bundle, you’re going to make such a good mama!

 

What not to say: So, when are you having the next one?

Why? Think about it. She just gave birth and as a family they are learning their new norm. Or what if you’re talking to a friend with an older baby/toddler and this family has been trying for months or years already? What if they have suffered a miscarriage, but just aren’t ready to talk about it? When they are ready to expand their family, trust me they will fill you in when they are ready to.

Instead: You have such a beautiful family and you’re a really great mom ready!

 

What not to say:

Oh good, you’ve got one of each. That’s a perfect family, now you can stop having kids

Another boy? Hope you drink wine and have great insurance!

Another girl? Yikes, that’s a lot of hormones- just wait until they are teenagers!

Why? Gender disapointment is a real thing, others are happy with whatever they are blessed with, but some parents may already feel anxious or disappointed.

Instead: They will be great friends one day!

Coworker

While we’re at it, here are some comments to avoid saying to a pregnant co-worker…

Wow! You are still here!

You didn’t have the baby yet?

Wanna hear about my horrific birth?

Natural- you are crazy! Honey, take the drugs!

You want an epidural? Oh, I did it the old fashion way.

 

And, of course, some great things to say to a pregnant co-worker…

Glad to see you today!

I’m so excited for you!

Have you heard of a doula? ( you know we needed to put that somewhere)

I can’t wait to bring you a hot meal once baby is here.

Let’s go get a pedi- my treat!

 

Up next: things not to say to a new mother……here’s a tip- you look tired…..

 

By Emily Jacobson